Time really has a way to make you forget things. I can't believe it's been a year since my ex boyfriend who was a narcissist has left me to get back together with his young 'trophy girlfriend' who's actually one of his main sources of 'supply'. If you ask my opinion, I'd say she's a perfect flying monkey for someone like him (who by the way actually looks like a monkey himself. LOL! :)
Friends would ask me now, how my life's been going on? I could answer anyone straight in the eye without batting an eyelash that yes, I've finally moved on.
I admit it had taken quite sometime before I finally did. But before the end of 2017, I made sure I've recovered well enough from that tragic and traumatic incident in my life. I call it traumatic because I've been abused and used. And I used to have this what they refer to as Stockholm Syndrome or Trauma Bonding where I would still yearn for him despite and inspite of all the bad things he's done to me. I only found out about such term and the condition itself upon research a few months after the separation. I began to question myself, like what was wrong with me? Why was I acting that way? Everything seemed so strange. It was easier to move on if the so-called "relationship" was a genuine one. But no, it was entirely different from my past relationships. It was me loving someone who never really existed in the first place. The "personality" he made to make me fall for him. In reality, after the masks had fallen, I began to understand what really transpired between us. It was just a game that he played so well.
Like a tic-tac-toe. He knew exactly what moves to make, and I was his 'willing' pawn. I had no idea back then that I was being manipulated, that he was trying to control everything in my life. And eventually, after I learned of his masks, he decided to walk away just like that while making it appear that he was 'betrayed' and he was the 'real victim.' That's when I realized my ex was such a great con artist to begin with.
A relationship is all about bringing out the best in one another. But what if you're bringing out the worst in each other instead? If you are being put down or getting that feeling that you can't be yourself when you are around that person, then this might be a sign that you are in an unhappy and toxic relationship.
|TBH, This is how I look at my ex now.|
If he constantly talks about his ex-wife (or ex girlfriends) and would oftentimes compares you to her, there's a huge chance that your partner is still hung up over his last relationship.