|Kyle in his most serious photo to date.|
You’ll see such a contagious joy on my face when I start talking about Kyle, my dear nephew whom I consider as my own. I’ve been happy tending to him than being the career woman I ought to be. I’ve been Kyle’s surrogate mother since I’ve learned about my elder sister’s pregnancy at my college baccalaureate mass. I remember there used to be times when I’d go home late at night and I’d still find Kyle waiting for me even if it’s already past his bedtime because he didn’t want to sleep without me.
|My family: Mom, Kyle and moi|
When my nephew Kyle came into our lives, my life has completely changed. I had someone to look after and cared for. Kyle is a special child. He’s got Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder or ADHD. So even if I had to sacrifice my own life (pursuing a career of my own, having a love life—among all the other things I had to give up to focus on him) I had no regrets that I had been present during his most crucial times—his childhood—where his foundation of character had been developed. He’s been my source of strength, pride, and joy. What I had lost far outweighs what I had gained plus more.
|Kyle and I love to ham up before the camera.|
At certain points, Kyle would run to embrace Mom and me and simply cling to us—wanting every minute to be with us as he always does, and I feel all warm and fuzzy inside as I always do when that happens. I relish it as much as I can because I know that the way he hungers for our time, our company will not be the same forever. Time will come when we will be clinging to him, and love him dearly though he may, he will want to spread his wings and fly on his own.
|Having fun at the Halloween Photobooth|
Kyle, Mom and I—we were always together, for many moments of our lives, we were hardly apart from each other. We’re inseparable—traveling together, living together, sharing the same room, and loving each other. The two of them are my only family.
|We love to do things together as Mom and son|
|We like photobooths such as this.|
Every Sunday, I would bring Kyle to Max’s Restaurant as this is the little one’s only request to his aunt (like a little baby asking his mother). It’s a pass on tradition from my mom to me and from me to my dear adopted son Kyle. In a way it is a form of bonding and quality time with Kyle and my mom. We definitely enjoy savoring the goodness of golden crispy chicken and its sarap-to-the-bones taste that we have grown to love all these years. We love Max’s fried chicken and it would undoubtedly be our last meal on earth.
|Our favorite chicken of all time!|
|Sour yet tangy Sinigang na hipon|
|Our Sunday hangout place-Max's Restaurant|
|Creamy and peanutbuttery Kare-Kare's such a comfort meal.|
|Budget friendly value meal for everyone.|
As a writer most of my life, I have experienced the loneliest moments where I was always limited to a social lifestyle and wide networks of friends. I was just grappling with my computer, my articles and my thoughts. As a result, I needed to cling on to Kyle and my mom who gives me moral support, where I get my emotional dependency.
I was sent to cover an event out-of town which requires me to be away from my son. And I received a call on my mobile phone from a distant relative. The dreaded news came that Kyle had met an accident. A vehicular accident at that! He’s been wounded. It turned out he was about to buy an ice pop for an older cousin. Since he’s pretty excited for his upcoming dance performance in school,apparently he wore the Jabawockeez mask as he crossed the street, if one realizes he is a boy with special needs. An Isuzu vehicle driven by an old man had ran over him. Upon hearing these words, my world crumbled in a way I had never imagined. I was in shock! I was blaming myself for leaving him in the company of my other relatives who were slack and not as vigilant as I am.
|The mask that my son used when he crossed the street.|
I headed straight to the hospital’s emergency room to check out on him as soon as I returned from the province. I brought a Max’s take out bag for his dinner but the hospital prohibits food inside the premises. That was one of the worst scenarios I’ve ever been into: I was forced to eat the food outside. Imagine I had to eat the entire Max’s takeout chicken by my lonesome self. It actually felt like I had been munching on paper instead of my favorite dinner meal.
|Kyle lying helplessly in the hospital|
It was indeed the worst dinner I had in my lifetime. I did not have the appetite for it but I had no option but to eat just so I could finally see my dear nephew in such a pity state. When I was finally allowed to enter the hospital premises, my heart sank. Kyle looked so helpless with an avulsed (read: unskinned) wound on his left foot along with black and blue bruises here and there. If I could turn back time I vow never to leave him out of my sight. The feeling was unfathomable—I was totally overwhelmed with the rollercoaster of emotions.
I thank God Kyle’s guardian angel had been there all along when the incident happened. He didn’t have fractures to begin with and that’s something to be happy about.
After a few days he was discharged from the hospital. He used crutches to be able to walk normally again for about three weeks, Kyle had that desire to get his life back. Soon after, I was called back to my job.
|Kyle using crutches for weeks.|
As his surrogate mother, I wanted to make my son smile again and in order to make it up to him, while I had been busy with work and even if I wasn’t home yet I decided to place an advance order to give some sort of a small “Welcome Home” party for Kyle by ordering our favorite Max’s specialty meals online at www.maxschicken.com I’ve ordered Crispy Pata, Pancit Canton, Fresh Lumpia, buko pandan and of course, Kyle’s ultimate favorite: Max’s spring Fried Chicken + his fave dessert, a box of Max’s caramel bars (yes, he can finish the entire box by himself!). That night proved to be fulfilling, knowing fully well how I had made Kyle and my relatives happy as they indulged in such delectable feast. So when I got home that night, it felt good seeing that familiar awe in Kyle’s eyes as he delighted on sumptuous meals he’d missed. (Hey, we all know how hospital foods are, right?) It’s my way of thanking the Lord for giving my beloved nephew another chance to live and be with us.
|Our ultimate favorite Max's Fried Chicken|
|Crispy yet juicy Lechon Kawali also tops our order's list|
|Who can forget about Pancit Canton?|
|Kyle bites on his fave sarap-to-the-bones chicken|
In a nutshell, no matter how busy life can be for most of us, this incident in my life had taught me how to cherish my family more. LIFE is so precious. Anyone could simply disappear from our lives in a matter of seconds. Make your loved ones know how much you love them.
|Mom and Kyle eating their fave food dine-in|
|My family and I|
With the emergence of e-commerce and online social media platforms (you could get in touch with them on real time wherever you may be on this planet) as well as innovative online delivery services such as Max’s Restaurant’s website where one could send, order and pay meals even bulk orders online, regardless if it’s for dine in, take out, deliver later (meals delivered at specific date and time so you’ll never miss out on any special occasion) or deliver now—making your presence felt by sending their favorite Max’s goodies is simply just within your fingertips. Filipinos living overseas may now be able to surprise their loved ones anywhere in the Philippines by placing their orders online via www.maxschicken.com or calling Max’s express delivery service at 7-9000. And I can assure you; each meal tastes even better when you’re in the company of those whom you love (even thru Viber or Skype). #Salo-salo Kahit Malayo.
Disclaimer: I am not compensated for this post. Opinions expressed are 100% my own.
Kudos to you Vance! Mother of the year. :)ReplyDelete
thank you so much dear for the kind words. I wish there's a "Tita or an Aunt's" day so that people like me will be recognized as well. Haha...:)Delete
Impressive detail,:) Image #1 is such a cutie, hmmm he'll be a hunk soon! It's good to hear he loves chicken at least the hunk-ness in him will flourish.ReplyDelete
P.S. Don't let him consume high cholesterol foodie, we'll prep up the image. :)
Thank you, sis for the lovely comments. Don't worry about Kyle getting fat. He's got a fast metabolism than his Tita. Plus he's very hyper so he'll burn everything he eats. :)Delete
I really respect women who really love their children. Good luck and continue to be a very good mother Vance. :) Say hi to Kyle for me. ^_^ReplyDelete
Thank you so much Ian. Kyle sends HELLO to you as well. :)Delete
he's such a lucky boy to have you as a mom. :)ReplyDelete
I'm sure your little boys are lucky too for having you. Thank you Mommy Willa. God bless our kids!Delete
it has been awhile since i've been here, as always, i simply love the way you give out those colorful details about you + your family's life. it has also been some time since we got together, hopefully i'll bump into you guys one of these days...ReplyDelete
i miss eating at max's, maybe this week will be the best time to visit the local branch here ;)
I will forever be grateful to you for helping me out to start a blog of my own. Yes, I hope to bump into you too one of these days and see your own little man growing as well. Kyle's getting bigger each day that I wish I could perpetuate the moment I spend with him. hahaha, but I know I cannot. So my blog entries about him will always be a reminder of the good 'ol times. Thank you for your support and friendship. :)Delete
words can't express how proud I am of you, my dear friend. See you all soon!ReplyDelete
Oh, dear! I am so #excited to see you again soon! Kyle is looking forward to see you too--as always. You're his only "Tita" who's fond of him and could very well tolerate his "kakulitan". I can't wait! Praying well to make our plans a reality soon. Thanks for dropping by my blog, dear.Delete
I always saw Max's as a place for the family as their chicken and foods are mostly perfect to be shared with the family.ReplyDelete
Thank you Franc. I agree that Max's is such a perfect place for family bonding while enjoying delicious Filipino foods.Delete
Ei Vance! Kyle is so lucky to have you! :)ReplyDelete
Thank you Kuya Rain! He still asks for the multivitamins you've promised him. :)Delete
Iaadamlim, I agree. we can vote her for mother of the year award! Kudos!ReplyDelete
Hmm... the food are enticing, try the "Pinuputukang Taba ng Bangus", my Max's favorite.
Thank you at Chasing Philippines. I'll try to order your favorite Max's food next time I visit the restaurant. :)Delete
A very touching post. I'm sure you'll be rewarded after all of your sacrifices for your son. I'm also sure he'll remember all those precious bonding moments with you at Max's.ReplyDelete
Thank you Ms. Mauie. These are some of my most unforgettable experiences. And I feel blessed to be given the privileged to take care of my nephew and hone him to be the person he's destined to be. Thank you for dropping by my humble blog. God bless! :)Delete
That scene about eating Max Chicken Meal takeout outside the emergency room was so sad. Take care of him, your mother, his mother and yourself.ReplyDelete
Fyhmd, thank you for your comment. Yes, indeed eating that Max's chicken takeout at that time was truly heartbreaking for me. Each time I think about it, I couldn't help but get goosebumps even until now. Good thing, we could all enjoy eating Max's chicken again. :)Delete
This is one worth reading story, I always love to see a happy family.ReplyDelete
Thank you Kuya Bam. I always try to see my life as half full rather than half empty. We may not be the typical "family" but with the Lord as our Father, there is certainly nothing we shall need. God bless you and your family! :)Delete
Very touching, Vance. :-)ReplyDelete
Thank you Nana. Hope to see you again soon! :)Delete
Krizzle Nickka deleonReplyDelete
Never, ever blame yourself for the bad things that happen in your loved ones, sometimes, most of the time, things happen for a reason, and that's how God shows His mighty ways, even in accidents that happen. Hope your son is feeling well now! With my prayers, Joy F.ReplyDelete
wow.. Kyle is lucky to have with you Vance..it's a very interesting story..it really shows on the photoes you love each other.. happy for you :-)ReplyDelete