So this is how being forty feels
like... With four decades of existence on Earth, I have learned that I have so
much to be thankful for. My life journey wasn’t exactly easy, but it was worth
every risk, every decision that I made has made me into who I am today.
If you happen to know me
personally, you must know that I had been living my life as a single for the past
decades. I dated quite late (I started dating at age 35 you know) simply
because I had forgotten my desire to get married. Back then, I was so focused
on raising my nephew Kyle whom I treated like my own son—I didn’t have the
luxury of time to do anything else. Now that Kyle has grown into a fine young
man (He’s now 18 years old) and an incoming freshman in college, I guess it’s
time to face my own life no matter how overdue it may be.
This year, as I turn 40, I am
making a lot of milestones: I am making a new decade, this will be my last year
as a single (hopefully, God-willing) and thank God I have already met the man I
wanted to marry and live with for the rest of my life.
They say 40 is the new 30. At
this age, I fully understand that there are some things that we can’t just
plan. Life is a series of surprises and plot twists. We receive blessings each
and every single day. It’s all a matter of perspective. Even something negative
can be turned into a positive one—it depends on how you perceive things. If you
let it affect you negatively, then it will be your loss. But when you look at
it differently—try to see the goodness in everything that comes your way, it
will eventually change the way you look at things, and ultimately, change your
life. You’d soon notice that you’d become happier, more relaxed, and practically
be a more positive person.
I’m not saying that at my age I’ve
become a very positive person. I am still a work-in-progress, there’s still a
lot more room for improvement. However, I am trying my best each day to be a
better person. It’s a bit difficult, to be completely honest about it, but we’re
getting there. As they say, you don’t really need to see the entire staircase,
you just need to take one step at a time.
